As our first class is coming to a close, I wanted to take the time to feature each one of our Certified Kink Aware Therapy Therapists, Educators, and Coaches. Our interns have the pledge to see kinky clients at sliding scale rates in order to serve and support the community. If you are in need of … Continue reading INTERN SPOTLIGHT
A topic was brought up briefly today and I want to explore it a little further in this blog post. Everyone has many facets to their personalities , different selves. One being the “dark side”, the dark passenger, or shadow self. In the Wiccan traditions I have worked with getting in touch with the shadow … Continue reading Talking to the Shadow Self
I give a lecture on Pagans finding recovery support and a Pagan friendly therapist at the Mystic South Conference in Atlanta. The outline of the lecture starts with discussing addiction and spirituality flowing into issues Pagans encounter in the recovery and where they can turn to for help. At the end there is a discussion … Continue reading Pagans Finding Recovery Support
In Western culture, this is a split in the feminine sexuality; for sex in general really. We are bombarded with sex all day on billboards, commercials, music videos, sitcoms, yet we cannot express our sexuality in our everyday lives. This double standard is very prevalent for women; especially mothers, and their libido pays the price. … Continue reading Integrating the Madonna/Whore
This is a question I hear quite often in my practice. My answer is normal is what lies on a bell curve between 0 to 2 standard deviation of the mean. Please reference the picture below. If one looks at the curve, normal is on a spectrum mathematically speaking; there is not one hard true … Continue reading What is Normal?
To kick this off let me define what I mean by Vanilla , BDSM, and Polyamory. “Vanilla Relationship” derives from the use of vanilla extract as the basic flavoring for ice cream, and by extension, meaning plain or conventional. This means sexual behavior that is within the range of normality for a culture or subculture, … Continue reading What can Vanilla Relationships Pull From BDSM and Poly?
This was a topic of interest a few months back and I thought I would insert my thoughts on sex while surfing the red ride on the cotton mouse (tampon). So my personal opinion back in the day was “Oh My God! That is so gross.” Of course I was envisioning a bloody mess everywhere. … Continue reading Period Sex… Wonderful Bloody Mess
So a little bit more about why I choose the profession of sex and relationship therapy. Honestly, I had no idea I would be pursuing a PhD in clinical sexology. It evolved organically. When I was a kid I wanted to be a marine biologist and that gave way to wanting to save people as … Continue reading Why I do Sex Therapy
Extending a VERY special Welcome